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Thursday, November 27, 2008 { 10:55 PM }

today is so unlucky for me...boohooohoooo...

supposingly i should reach office quite early but due to me being so sleepy ii overslept 1 bus stop..lucky ii din reach ps..cos previously ii work at ssd ii did overslept once and ii reach ps at 8am!!!lucky the bus reach early and i got enough time to reach office although ii drop off 1 bus stop later..

after dat ii was taking all my necessary stuff to start my mounting of slides end up ii drop both the coverslip boxes on my leg..argh and it kinda scrape off my skin on my toe..got abit blood somemore..

and while filtering my stains..ii spill the colours over the funnel..and the sink table..damn!

after ii finish mounting ii suppose to label the slides and ii accidentally drop my box of labels on the floor..arghs!!!!!!!!!!!!

after ii finish all my work for the morning ii suppose to go back to my table but ii knock my foot against one of the fridge..my skin scrape off again..oky and tis is my other leg..

so all in all my 2 legs being kena left and right..haiyoyoyoyoyo!!!!
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so siianz man..1 whole morning so many tings happen to me liaoz..wad else?hahah

luckily nothing bad happen to me in the afternoon..heng arh..!oky end of story liaoz..back to my music..hahah..bye ppl..mwarks mwarks..

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{ 12:35 AM }

and so as my topic says oky maybe euu may not see my topic it says off to slacking..

hahahhaha..my brain kinda in a slacking mode liao..so looking forward to my leave on 28nov..yes..hint:someone's birthday..hahaha taking leave till my birthday 1stdec..and den on 5-6dec..ahahah ii jz feel lyk slacking from fri-sat..leave toooooo much liao!!!trying my best to clear leave but ii tink after taking tis leave even if ii calculate the 5-6dec leave,my leave still left with 12days sehh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!argh!how am i gonna take leave until i left oky wadever...hahahah!right ii suddenly forgot linda lim told me ii can kip my leave until nxt year..so let's see if ii nvr take the 12days finish den 12+14=26 den ii have to at least take 12days before nxt year finish..omg!!!den when is my leave gonna finish in tis way?!!!-.-

ii give up on tis taking leave ting..jz leave everything to fate...or maybe ii should say when ii really feel "TIRED" den ii take leave ba..even if i really really wanna accomodate with Vin's leave..?its difficult lar cos wad?ssd's calendar is lyk crazily fully BERII berii FULLY BOOKed!!!it is really dat "CRAZY"...oky ii give up on dat!!

right now is 12.42am and my brain is drifting off to dreamland!..oky end tis entry fast and go sleep after my downloading finish?bye nites and cover blankie!!lol!=P

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Saturday, November 22, 2008 { 9:47 PM }

: fathers & sons ep 13A - 15B & Ten Brothers Ep 15A - 15B(HK drama)

: Duo Yi Tian Ai Yi Dian - R&B
: Yumiko Cheng Hei Yee - Jing Cai Nian Dai & Vivian Hsu - The Essential
: alot of things for me to do yet so little time!!!


argh!!seems lyk ii got so little time but so much tings to do!!free samples for me to collect but ii tink ii will go with vin to collect the miniature original source foam.and ii nid to update my albums into my mp3..dling new albums..watching my dramas..and of cos last but not least update my blog la..too little time and too many tings to do liaoz..and wad's more fia at home resting recovering from injuries and dunknw when coming back to work and coming outing on 29 nov is postponed or cancelled..haiyoyo yy so many tings happen when coming to end of year de?!!haiyo abit siian..

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Thursday, November 20, 2008 { 10:40 PM }

: fathers & sons ep 10B(HK drama)
: Betcha Neva - Tata Young
: not downloading any albums..-.-
ii will be using a new blog method something dat maybe some ppl knw since previously..haahha..but anyway its jz to brighten tings up..cos my blogskin is black ma..so maybe it will stand up?hahah..ii tink as for waty's ermm..questionaire?or survey..?erm..gotta do it another time ba..
seriously hungry for some song requests..so anyone got any song requests for me?lol..ii can dl anyting euu name it ii Got it..!!!wakakak..too free is it?oky oky abit boring..so i'll end tis now..will update again..hopefully tis weekend?=)

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Monday, November 17, 2008 { 12:50 AM }

wad the hell is happening??!!!yy am ii getting so cranky or is it "somebody else" who is getting frustrated n cranky at me instead?argh!!!been so bored..or maybe busy?ahahhaha.yea MY STATUS : - busy playing maple && dling new albums..so nt free to update blog or read my lovely friends' blog..ii am now enjoying my boring work and at the same time looking forward to the days ii am on leave..coming tis 28nov..hahha hopefully can celebrate his bdae..and mine together gather la..hahha..taking leave on 28nov - 1dec..and 5dec - 6dec..wah ii one shot take 4days seh..ii asked linda lim she say we can kip our 1year's leave to the 2nd year and mus use finish dat previous year one by 31 march of nxt year so good seh..hahaha..

argh wad am ii suppose to blog next..?!!oops ii suddenly really sudden forget le..damn!my brain jz stop working erm..but ii gotta do it fast cos euu knw wad its gonna be 1am and here ii am still typing away..dat's the problem with working am should sleep early but ii kip sleeping late..my mother cleaned up my whole room today and its so spick n span liaoz..super "empty" all the previous cd albums are taken away..luckily ii requested for the new albums not to be taken away..if not all taken liaoz den ii got nothing to refer to le..forgot to say ii tink my cd albums got total 200+ plus the new one aldy 300?lol..super crazy me..but actually about one third of the total albums actually belong to my "Ex" one..but he hack care about it ii even got 1 free old ps from "Him" during the progress of our prev relationship...so good huh?!!

ii wanna go sleep n play back to my usual self during my leave...my precious leave 28nov pls faster come so ii can go buy bdae gift for "Vincent Hong" hahhaha!!!!nt sure wad to buy maybe ii shld go esprit and take a looky..!!=)

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qIaNhUi: DIET Lek =S

~Reply qIaNhUi: haiyo dun diet one day wun die one lar!

MnM: Please allow ur blog to be able to copy & paste.. so i can copy & paste it to WORDS WITh LARGeR FONT to READ what u r writing at LEASt Pls

~Reply MnM: been there and done that..although ii aldy change the size to 12 its super big for me dat ii can see the words with my specs off lor!!euu mus do something to yr pc den the words will appear bigger on yr side but euu die oso dunwan me change so wad can i do?!!

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Sunday, November 09, 2008 { 7:37 PM }

We are not sure how effective it is, just try this method when it rains heavily. This method was told by a Police friend who had experienced and confirmed it.... it is useful...even driving at night.

Most of the motorists would turn on HIGH or FASTEST SPEED of the wipers during heavy downpour, yet the visibiilty in front of the windscreen is still bad..... Thus, in the event you face such situation, just try your SUN GLASSES ( any model will do), and miracle..... ......... ..

All of a sudden, your visibility in front of your windscreen are perfectly clear, as if there is no rain........ ......... Try it yourself and share it with your friends..... .........

Make sure you have a pair of SUN GLASSES in your car, you are not only helping yourself to drive safely with good vision, but also you might save your friend's life when driving in the rain........ ........

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Saturday, November 08, 2008 { 11:46 PM }

你对他有哪一种感觉吗?有….
美丽的感觉
俗话说情人眼里出西施,所以在有爱情的时候,你一定会觉得对方最好看,即使有别的异性比你爱的对象好看,但对你而言,他(她)才是你心中最有吸引力的一个,这个人是别人根本无法相比的。
亲爱的感觉
当你爱上一个人,你会有一种很亲切的感觉,跟他(她)在一起,你会觉得很舒服,很和谐,在一起的时候,可以让你在当今这个无聊社会中感到可以暂时忘记所有烦恼。你可以信任并在心理上依靠他(她)。他(她)像是一个亲密的家人(甚至比家人更亲密),因为有了他(她)的陪伴,让你暂时忘记了所有的朋友和亲人,你体会到一份温馨的感觉--这就是亲爱的感觉。
羡慕及尊敬的感觉
一个健康的爱情关系。应当有以对方为荣的感觉,你会欣赏对方所有的一切,包括内在与外在的条件和优点,并且对方也让你感觉,他(她)处处以你为荣。如果这种感觉存在的话,不论他(她)做这件事是成功或失败,你都会欣赏他(她)的才华和性格,而不是只重视结果。
赞许的爱情
相爱的时候,你是否喜欢夸奖对方,而且不仅是欣赏,或敷衍了事而已,你还会喜欢在他(她)不在的时候向其他人讲述他(她)的种种好,哪怕帮你煮一碗快熟面。重要的是,你从夸奖对方的热诚之中感到无比的快乐。
占有欲
爱情是绝对独占的,无论是精神上还是肉体上,是绝对不能与他人分享其亲密的男女关系,因此,当爱情从不确定走向稳定后,需要以婚姻来持续以后的日子,所以我们在结婚时彼此相约相许。在真实的爱情生活里,互相许诺忠诚是必要的。
行动自由受限制
如果一个人有正当的理由,他(她)的行动的自由一定要受到尊重,这样才不会破坏两人之间的长期关系。但是,当爱情来临时,你会不知不觉的约束自己和对方的行动,因为你的潜意识中告诉自己,你要了解一切你能了解的,控制一切你能控制的。爱跟着感觉走的人虽然十分令人担心或生气,但是对于热爱随性生活的人而言,限制或约束一点用都没有。还不如给他(她)自由、空间。他(她)总会回来的。当然,自由的理想状态是很难形成的,毕竟人都有自私的一面,两个人的相互默契和信任就显的格外重要了。
深深的同情
人们对深爱的人常会有怜惜的感觉,经常会为对方考虑,如果对方受到挫折,我们会非常愿意为他(她)分担痛苦与挫折,把对方所受的苦当作自己所遭遇的苦难一样,或者更胜于自己的苦难,因为在爱情里,我们愿意为对方而牺牲自己的利益。
生理上的性冲动
当我们在对一个异性产生兴趣或爱上某个异性时,都希望彼此有身体上的接触。在真实的爱情生活里,这种欲望是永远存在的。性冲动并不是单单只是行为,它还包含了许多其他亲密的身体上的接触,如牵手、拥抱等等,这种情感会永远存在于爱人心中。
如果你发现自己近期有如下举动,那么你现在正在爱情进行中:
1.你在同朋友联欢会喜欢与对方从嘈杂中脱离出来和他(她)一起漫步.
2.当你们在一起时你会假装忽视对方,但当对方不在你身边的时候你会环顾四周很着急的寻找.
3.虽然其他人总是惹你发笑,但你的眼睛和注意仅仅在一个人身上.
4.虽然对方早就应该打电话告诉你他(她)已安全到家,但是你的电话却一直沉默着,然后,你清楚的意识到你正在处于等待的惊慌中.
5.当读到这篇文章时,如果某个人在你的心中出现,那么,恭喜你!你已经爱上他了。

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Thursday, November 06, 2008 { 10:12 PM }

after watching the variety show buffet buffet on channel 8 ii got even more urge to go and eat NOW!but den hais ii am now on semi-dieting..hahha meaning ii seldom eat fast food liaoz..ya ya not counting ytd lar!tis week ii really nvr touch kfc or bk or ljs..but mac is no choice..cos dun feel lyk eating any other tings le..so tired..hais give me porridge to eat ba..lol..

argh!!!the food is so TEMPTING!!!hey guys when are we going for our nxt outing to makan maybe?lyk we go buffets?!!yea?hahahh..jz a small thought of mine..heheh..maybe nxt month or after xmas?wakkaka..ahhaha..see ba..anyway ii will post the makan buffet address in my random blog..wakakaka..

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Wednesday, November 05, 2008 { 8:53 PM }

Take 2 minutes and read through this; you will be amazed at what you can learn!

Bed Sheets

After drying sheets, put both sheets and one pillowcase in the other pillow case. Fold neatly in a square. Next time you change sheets, you just take the one pillow case and all the sheets and pillow case are inside. No need to look for matches.

Reheat Pizza

Heat up leftover pizza in a non-stick skillet on top of the stove, set heat to med-low and heat till warm. This keeps the crust crispy. No soggy micro pizza. I saw this on the cooking channel and it really works.

Reheating refrigerated bread

To warm biscuits, pancakes, or muffins that were refrigerated, place them in a microwave with a cup of water. The increased moisture will keep the food moist and help it reheat faster.

Broken Glass

Use a dry cotton ball to pick up little broken pieces of glass - the fibers catch ones you can't see!

Easier thank you's

When you throw a bridal/baby shower, buy a pack of thank you cards for the guest of honor. During the party, pass out the envelopes and have everyone put their address on one. When the bride/new mother sends the thank you's, they're all addressed!

Name tag

If you purchase a new bike for your child, place their picture inside the handle bar before placing the grips on. If the bike is stolen and later recovered, remove the grip and there is your proof who owns the bike.

Flexible vacuum

To get something out of a heat register or under the fridge add an empty paper towel roll or empty gift wrap roll to your vacuum. It can be bent or flattened to get in narrow openings.

Reducing Static Cling

Pin a small safety pin to the seam of your slip and you will not have a clingy skirt or dress. Same thing works with slacks that cling when wearing panty hose. Place pin in seam of slacks and -- voila -- static is gone.

Measuring Cups

Before you pour sticky substances into a measuring cup, fill it with hot water. Dump out the hot water, but don't dry the cup. Next, add your ingredient, such as peanut butter, and watch how easily it comes right out.

Foggy Windshield?

Hate foggy windshields? Buy a chalkboard eraser and keep it in the glove box of your car. When the windows fog, rub with the eraser! Works better than a cloth!

Reopening envelope

If you seal an envelope and then realize you forgot to include something inside, just place your sealed envelope in the freezer for an hour or two. Voila! It unseals easily.

Conditioner

Use your hair conditioner to shave your legs. It's a lot cheaper than shaving cream and leaves your legs really smooth. It's also a great way to use up the conditioner you bought but didn't like when you tried it in your hair...

Good-bye Fruit Flies

To get rid of pesky fruit flies, take a small glass fill it 1/2 with Apple Cider Vinegar and 2 drops of dishwashing liquid, mix well. You will find those flies drawn to the cup and gone forever!

Get Rid of Ants

Put small piles of cornmeal where you see ants. They eat it, take it 'home,' & can't digest it so it kills them. It may take a week or so, esp. if it rains, but it works & you don't have the worry about pets or small children being harmed!

Take baby powder to the beach

Keep a small bottle of baby powder in your beach bag. When you're ready to leave the beach sprinkle yourself and kids with the powder and the sand will slide right off your skin.

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Monday, November 03, 2008 { 10:09 PM }

ii feel so poor tis month ii dunknw yy?haha cos ii got a few debts which i've yet to get it back.mayb nxt mth or the mth after nxt cos its dec yes...!more more $..hahha...i tink ii will forego my usual makan sessions at swensen's and jap restaurants..

haha..cos today ii was in pantry with peiling and she asked me whether ii still buy online stuffy..ii say not as often liaoz..the most ii buy is 1 dress or 1 ting per month..so she say orh..cos euu need to...(save money up!)...haaha urm somewhat true ba..and seriously ii hate ppl asking me tis question..when eur getting married?ii seriously dunknw the answer to dat question..den she say dun so late arh..ii hope this marry dream can come earlier oso..but sad to say both our careers are still not dat stable yet..ii jz become tis asst lab/cyto tech he jz become support svc supervisor..

and den ii abit headache cos linda lim ask me to study part-time..hmm..maybe ii will but my science is D7 leh..so dunknw if SP will accept me anot..and currently they dun have part-time diploma in the course ii am supposed to learn which is medical technology.my science have to be C6 lor..hais..so headache..and den according to the website..it indicated they will have to consider a case-by-case basis on whether to accept the students..=( abit siianz liaox when ii see tis msg..hmm maybe ii will have to email them regarding this matter but ii tink ii better scan my results to email them together..if can..

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Sunday, November 02, 2008 { 12:11 PM }

TRUST is a very important factor for all relationships. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

A telephone operator told me that one day she received a phone call. She answered, 'Public Utilities Board.' There was silence. She repeated, 'PUB.' There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she Heard a lady's voice, 'Oh, so this is PUB. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is.' Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the telephone operator answered with just 'hello' instead of 'PUB'.

NO POINTING FINGERS

A man asked his father-in-law, 'Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?' The father-in-law answered in a smile, 'Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you.' We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.. If we forgive the others, others will ignore our mistake too.

CREATING PERFECT RELATIONSHIPS?

A person visited the government matchmaker for marriage, SDU, and requested 'I am looking for a spouse. Please help me to find a suitable one.' The SDU officer said, 'Your requirements, please.' 'Oh, good looking, polite, humorous , sporty, knowledgeable, good in singing and dancing. Willing to accompany me the whole day at home during my leisure hour, if I don't go out. Telling me interesting stories when I need companion for conversation and be silent when I want to rest.' The officer listened carefully and replied, 'I understand you need television.'

There is a saying that a perfect match can only be found between a blind wife and a deaf husband, because the blind wife cannot see the faults of the husband and the deaf husband cannot hear the nagging of the wife. Many couples are blind and deaf at the courting stage and dream of perpetual perfect relationship. Unfortunately, when the excitement of love wears off, they wake up and discover that marriage is not a bed of roses. The nightmare begins.

NO OVERPOWERING

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case.

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character.' It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

RIGHT SPEECH

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that 'A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation.' Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other, we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted, 'Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school.' On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, 'Luckily you married me. Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker.' She answered,'You should appreciate that you married me. Other wise, he will be the millionaire and not you.'

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

PERSONAL PERCEPTION

Different people have different perception. One man's meat could be another man's poison. A couple bought a donkey from the market. On the way home, a boy commented, 'Very stupid. Why neither of them ride on the donkey? 'Upon hearing that, the husband let the wife ride on the donkey. He walked besides them. Later, an old man saw it and commented, 'The husband is the head of family. How can the wife ride on the donkey while the husband is on foot?' Hearing this, the wife quickly got down and let the husband ride on the donkey. Further on the way home, they met an old Lady. She commented, 'How can the man ride on the donkey but let the wife walk. He is no gentleman.' The husband thus quickly asked the wife to join him on the donkey. Then, they met a young man. He commented, 'Poor donkey, how can you hold up the weight of two persons. They are cruel to you.' Hearing that, the husband and wife immediately climbed down from the donkey and carried it on their shoulders.

It seems to be the only choice left. Later, on a narrow bridge, the donkey was frightened and struggled. They lost their balance and fell into the river. You can never have everyone praise you, nor will everyone condemn you. Never in the past, not at present, and never will be in the future.

Thus, do not be too bothered by others words if our conscience is clear..

BE PATIENT

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, 'Daddy, I'm sorry about your truck.' Then he asked, 'but when are my fingers going to grow back?' The father went home & committed suicide.

Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge. Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be re! paired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

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